Let’s be honest, ladies: how many times have you heard someone tell you to “set boundaries”? It’s the go-to advice for anyone dealing with difficult relationships, toxic behaviours, or just life’s everyday challenges. On paper, it sounds great—firm up those lines, protect your energy, stand tall.
But in practice? Boundaries alone can feel like putting a Band-Aid on a bullet wound. The truth is, boundaries are surface-level. They’re the quick fix for a much deeper issue. And when you don’t address the root cause, you end up stuck in a toxic cycle, questioning your worth and beating yourself up for letting people stomp all over your lines—again.
Let’s flip the script. Today, we’re breaking through the “boundaries” talk and diving into what really works: breaking soul contracts.
The Boundary Trap: Why It’s Not Working for You
You’ve been there. You set a boundary with the best of intentions—maybe it’s with a partner who keeps overstepping, a family member who criticises your every move, or even your own kids who know exactly how to push your buttons. For a hot minute, it feels empowering. But then, you slip. You let it slide, just this once. Then again. And before you know it, the line you so carefully drew in the sand is completely washed away.
Cue the guilt. The shame. The internal dialogue that tells you you’re not strong enough, disciplined enough, or “worthy” enough to stick to your own rules. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?
The problem isn’t you. It’s that you’re fighting the wrong battle. Boundaries are an external solution to an internal problem, and until you address what’s happening beneath the surface, you’re going to keep ending up in the same painful cycle.
The Invisible Chord Holding You Back
What’s really going on here is something far deeper than just someone ignoring your boundaries. It’s an invisible, energetic chord—a soul contract—that ties you to this person in a way that keeps pulling you back into the same old patterns.
A soul contract isn’t something you consciously agree to; it’s an energetic agreement that’s often rooted in old wounds, conditioning, or even past experiences that you might not fully understand yet. Think of it like an invisible thread: you might pull away, but until you cut that thread, it’s always going to tug you back.
This is why boundaries alone don’t work. You can build the tallest, strongest fence in the world, but if you’re still energetically tethered to someone, they’ll find a way in.
Breaking Soul Contracts: The Game Changer You’ve Been Waiting For
So how do you finally free yourself? By breaking the soul contract that’s been holding you captive. When you do this deep, transformative work, you’re not just setting a boundary—you’re removing the energetic ties that make those boundaries feel shaky in the first place.
Here’s what happens when you break a disempowering soul contract:
You feel lighter and freer. It’s like dropping a heavy backpack you didn’t even realise you were carrying.
Your boundaries become unshakeable. Once the energetic tie is severed, your boundaries will feel natural—non-negotiable, even. You won’t have to constantly defend them because the dynamic that made them necessary will have shifted.
You reclaim your power. Without that invisible chord pulling you back, you’re free to step fully into your own strength and sovereignty.
How to Break a Disempowering Soul Contract
Breaking a soul contract is about deep energetic work and self-awareness. Here’s where to start:
1. Identify the Soul Contract
Ask yourself: where in your life do you feel disrespected, drained, or stuck? Who are the people you keep looping back to, even though you know better? These are the relationships where soul contracts are likely at play.
2. Tune Into the Energy
What does this connection feel like? Is it rooted in fear, obligation, guilt, or old patterns? Get curious about the energy behind the relationship—it holds the key to what you need to release.
3. Release the Contract
This is where the magic happens. Releasing a soul contract often involves visualisation, intention setting, and energetic clearing. It’s about cutting the chord, not from a place of anger or resentment, but from a place of deep self-love and respect.
4. Rebuild from a Place of Power
With the contract broken, you’re free to rebuild the relationship—or let it go entirely—on your terms. Boundaries will feel effortless, not forced, because the energetic charge is gone.
Why Most People Don’t Talk About This
Here’s the thing: breaking soul contracts isn’t the quick, easy advice you’ll find in an Instagram caption. It’s deep, transformational work that takes courage and self-awareness. But it’s also the most powerful way to create real, lasting change in your relationships and your life.
Boundaries alone might make you feel like you’re putting out fires, but breaking soul contracts is like removing the source of the flame. It’s the ultimate act of self-responsibility and empowerment.
Ready to Break Free?
If you’ve got a relationship that feels like a thorn in your side—whether it’s with a partner, a family member, or even yourself—it’s time to stop spinning your wheels.
Stop setting boundaries that won’t stick. Start breaking soul contracts and watch your relationships transform.
This month, we’re diving deep into this work in the Aligned Woman Academy. Together, we’ll guide you through the process of identifying and releasing the soul contracts that have been holding you back.
Imagine finally feeling free—free from guilt, free from resentment, and free to live life on your terms. That’s what’s waiting for you on the other side of this work.
Learn more about relationships and breaking soul contracts by registering for our Aligned Woman Academy today. Let’s create unshakeable boundaries and unbreakable self-worth—together.
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