For the single, solo & FIFO partnered Mummas doing it all 💌

Can I get really honest with you for a second?

There’s a version of “having it all” that nobody talks about, and it doesn’t look like freedom.

It looks like 6 am school lunches, back-to-back client calls, bedtime routines run solo, and a quiet resentment that creeps in when you realise you are responsible for running a business AND running the home.

If you’re parenting alone, whether you’re single, solo, or your partner is FIFO, you already know the weight I’m talking about. Maybe even your partner is home but working a lot, or is traditionally the breadwinner? Which bears its own pressures, and Sistershare isn't meant to critique or condemn anyone, it's simply to share my experience and Soul Saving Tips as a woman running a business AND being the present parent at home.

I'm lucky because my husband is awesome and ... he is also not here anymore as his job is now in Perth. Which we decided together, and now it's when reality has really set in. Hopefully it's short-term... but the truth is we don't know.

It’s not just the logistics. It’s the emotional labour of holding everything together while trying to build something of your own.

I’ve been sitting with this one personally lately.

My husband is an airline pilot,  and he’s recently been based on the other side of the country, which means I’m not technically a single mum. But I’m also… not one?

The daily load, the invisible decisions, the mental, physical & emotional load of all of it,  it's a lot, and some days it's heavy. Combined with missing my best friend & navigating a long-distance relationship.

I didn’t want to talk about it for a while, which made it all too real. It's been about 4 months.

But then I did a sneaky IG story (quietly hoping no one saw it) aaannnnddd my inbox lit up with other ladies who are at home building businesses and raising families & struggling with the silence frustration, guilt, and resentment.

More than one of you said, "Dizey... please talk more about this and how you manage it"

So I am.

I'm doing it shaky

I'm doing it scared & I'm doing it to share my journey, wisdom & insights that have come with nearly 20 years of being a Fifo partnered parent with the intention to not just speak but to show tools, techniques & hacks that actually work.

I’m calling it the Rich Lady Trap ..... Ambitious women who are traditionally & instinctively responsible for the family/ home, raising children and being CEO building business, and the silent shadow that most of us feel but don't dare talk about in fear of "offending" or criticising our beloveds.

And if you’re a woman in business who is also the default parent at home, I made something for you this week.

[Listen to my podcast here] - like it, share it, send it to a friend who needs to hear it.

Side note: I could have used AI to write this post and done it in 2 minutes flat... instead, I took wwwaaaayyyy too long and 45 minutes (don't tell my boss ... who is my older sister heehee) to type this email letter by letter  ..... because WE need this conversation

 And it needs to come from a REAL woman who has real experience and not just fluffy, airy fairy answers, but some hardcore, embodied truths that have come from my own blood, sweat, tears and silent angst.

Lots of Love & Courage in Motion (like my friend Tish teaches)